How to Have Greater Confidence in Your Appearance When You Go Out

How to Have Greater Confidence in Your Appearance When You Go Out

Many psychologists believe that having a positive sense of self is the best predictor of long-term happiness. This can be hard, however, for people who are specifically self-conscious about their own appearance. Whether you are worried about impressing new dates or just looking as great as your friends, you deserve to feel confident in your own skin! Try some of these tips to help.

Spend Time with People That Lift You Up 

The kind of people you surround yourself with dramatically impacts how you feel about yourself. If you leave social interactions feeling worse, not better than yourself, you may want to evaluate who you are spending time with. Your friends should lift others up, speak positively, and have an enthusiastic outlook towards life. Surround yourself with people that push you to be a better person and inspire you to follow your dreams. These are the kind of people that are actively pursuing their own dreams without putting down others, and are more successful in the long run.

Practice Your Body Language 

There’s a direct correlation between how you present yourself physically and how you feel emotionally. Certain poses communicate different messages to people, but more importantly, to your own psyche. For example, crossing your arms in front of yourself is a sign of being closed off. This can come from feelings of discomfort or disengagement. When you stand up tall and avoid crossing your arms, you communicate to your brain that you are open to what is happening around you and you feel confident in that situation. Good posture and positive body language will go a long way in helping you feel confident in whatever situation you are in.

Get Your Hair Done 

For most, hair is a defining characteristic of who they are and what they look like. Fundamental to the way you look, it is perfectly acceptable for your hair to be an important element in the way you feel about your appearance. If you need a change, consider getting your hair done. Sometimes a new color, a haircut, a deep condition, or even a blowout can make all the difference in how you feel when you look in the mirror. It’s the perfect way to give you a boost in confidence and the feeling of a fresh start in your life, not to mention extra glam for everyone else to see. Don’t be afraid to change things up, ask your friends or stylist for advice, or implement small changes along the way.

Dress Well 

Perhaps the secret key to confidence is that when you look good, you feel good. Dressing well and according to your personal style when you go out puts you in the right frame of mind to take on social activities and put yourself out there. So choose the best outfit for your style and the occasion. A casual denim skirt can give you confidence when going out at night with friends, and a stylish but comfy dress is great for first dates. Regardless of your outing, dressing for the occasion helps you get in the right mood and exude confidence when you’re going out.

Only Buy It if You Love It 

Feeling confident in your dress is difficult when you don’t like the clothing you own. But so often people purchase clothing items only because they are trendy or on sale. Every individual is different which means their style is going to be different. If a specific sweater is on-trend but doesn’t match what you like, don’t buy it. You will either waste your money because you don’t end up wearing it, or you’ll waste it because you don’t enjoy wearing it when you do. And getting bulk clearance items adds clutter to your closet only to make you self-conscious in public. Really, the secret is to buy items that you truly love and feel comfortable wearing, whether or not they’re popular. Only make a purchase when you are truly excited about the article of clothing and can see yourself wearing it for years to come. 

Listen to Your Favorite Music 

While you are getting ready, you should listen to your favorite music. Think of this as your pre-game pump up music. Music has a strong correlation with the way our brain and nervous systems are feeling. For some, they need an upbeat loud song to get them excited. Others need calm instrumentals to calm their nerves. Choose what works best for you. Ultimately, an empowering, uplifting song will play a huge role in giving you the confident energy and enthusiasm you need for an outing.

Focus on Your Overall Health 

Confidence in yourself is difficult to have when you personally don’t feel good. Develop healthy routines that fuel your body and your mind. Eating healthy, making time to work out, and challenging yourself intellectually will give you satisfaction and endorphins from your accomplishments. Consider your mental health and how to better take care of it. Your body will feel better and your mind will think better when it has the proper nutrition, exercise, sleep, and stimulation needed to live a healthy and confident lifestyle. 

Repeat Positive Affirmations 

Your body is an incredible gift, but unfortunately people don’t always treat it like one. The ability you have to heal yourself from injuries, sickness, and emotional trauma is nothing short of a miracle. Take time to be grateful for your body, no matter its weaknesses. Positive self-affirmations in the mirror will help you see the wonderful gift you have. To do this, come up with a list of positive physical, mental, and emotional characteristics about yourself. Repeat them in the mirror each morning and every time before you go out. Your list may change from day to day, but that’s a good thing! Let yourself believe in the unique power and gift that you are, and when you walk out your door you will believe it.

Confidence is the cornerstone of dreams. Those that are confident love themselves for who they are and are more capable of loving others for who they are. They have more healthy relationships, better careers, and happier lives. Confidence doesn’t always come naturally, but consistently building your belief in yourself is a habit everyone should have!

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3 Must-Haves for a Spa-Themed Bachelorette Party

3 Must-Haves for a Spa-Themed Bachelorette Party

Having trouble coming up with bachelorette party ideas? Look no further! Here is the place to gather fun, girly ideas to incorporate into your night of fun. Use these 3 tips and experience a fun spa-themed girls’ night before the big day arrives


Manicures and pedicures are the go-to girl bonding experience. You can hire a professional manicurist at your party, visit your local salon, or give each other manicures and pedicures. It is fun to sit and talk with all your girlfriends over a mimosa as your feet soak in a warm tub. Let your guests choose from a variety of colors that match the color theme of your wedding, as well as special nail decorations to personalize your nails. You can also hire a manicurist to do nail art so that you and your friends can really show off their nails.

Eyelash Extensions

Every girl strives to have that perfect eyelash for special events like a wedding. It can be fun to incorporate eyelash extensions into the festivities of your bachelorette party. When it comes to choosing the ideal type of eyelash for you, pay special attention to the material they are made of. Natural mink lashes are the most popular for extensions, as they are long-lasting and can be safely heated and curled like the real deal. Let each girl choose their ideal length and thickness so that they all can feel spectacular. Eyelash extensions can last for weeks, so you can install them the night before and be ready for the wedding the next day, as well as give the girls a gift they’ll be able to enjoy long after the bride’s left for her honeymoon.


If you want a way to feel pampered and luxurious at your bachelorette party, you should indulge in facials. Professional facials make your face look fresh and dewy for your big day, although if you’re on a budget, at-home korean face masks can work well too. This is another great girl bonding experience you should take advantage of. You and your girlfriends can clean, exfoliate, and moisturize your skin while you sit back and chat with each other. You may even be able to get a face massage is your professional offers that service. It is very relaxing, especially if the bride or any bridesmaids have nerves for the upcoming wedding.

Bachelorette parties are for you and your girlfriends to have fun on the brides last night of being single. Take the time to share good memories and lots of laughs as you get your nails, eyelashes, and faces done. You will remember this night for the rest of your lives and prepare for the upcoming wedding.

Bad Boys Live in Chicago!

VIP Bachelorette is proud to announce Chicago’s hottest male dancers Bad Boys Live begins this weekend.  Although The Mardi Gras package does not start  until; April, The Bad Boys & Good Girls Package starts this Saturday!

You’ve seen Chippendales and Thunder From Down Under; Now its time to experience the ULTIMATE ladies night. et ready because these boys are going to rock your world! The Bad Boys Live have been choreographed by the best in the business to bring you the most amazing show you could ever imagine! One of the first shows to incorporate LIVE VIDEO into all of our acts, this is an audio-visual experience you have to see to believe.

For over 10 year VIP Bachelorette has chosen to only offer the best in the best for Male Revue Shows.  Bad Boys Live (Formerly Dreamboys Chicago) has been voted # 1 in Chicago for over a decade!

Book with VIP Bachelorette by March 14th and The Guestof HOnor is free with five or more girls.

Sometimes it’s good to be bad!



Parking, Valet and Getting Around in Chicago

Parking and Valet in Chicago

Parking in the Chicago area is difficult and stressful to find compared to other cities around the area.  Metered parking will have you coming back all night and you risk getting a ticket.  If you park in the wrong spot, you may even risk being towed.

Valet in Chicago is an issue many times as well.  If you need to park, we recommend reserving your spot.  You get discounted rates and your spot will be ready when you arrive.  No driving around for hours!

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You can find and book parking from anywhere, at a discounted rate.  Go to to get your $5, and it only takes a few seconds.  Plus, you can refer your friends and they will get $5 for their spot.


VIP recommends using our Lyft code if you do not have transportation throughout the night.  Lyft codes will give you $20.00 off your first ride if you are a new customer, or up to $50.00 in Lyft credits.  If you already are a customer, give the code to someone in your group.  If you use Uber in the downtown are (from hotel to venue) you likely would get your ride free.  Share it among the friends in your group, and you may ride free all night.  Lyft cars can hold up to 6 passengers.  Drivers are always nearby so you will be picked up in minutes!


Download the app on your phone; enter the promo code “vipchicago”

Need Airport Parking?

Reserve ahead and save some money.

Airport Parking

Options are always available for limos and buses as well.  VIP offers the best rates and vehicles.





Chicago VIP Clubbing Guide

Chicago VIP Clubbing Guide

Are you VIP Clubbing in Chicago?

VIP Bachelorette has been making reservations and working with nightclubs in Chicago for 15 years.  We are  proud to say that we rarely have issues arise the night of our client’s events. However, when there are over 25 of our parties out in Chicago every Saturday night, issues may arise.  While these instances are few and far between, they do occur and everyone should be prepared for them. Remember that VIP Bachelorette is here to assist our groups with issues but some things may simply be out of our control.  Whether you booked with VIP or any venue directly, you will still have the same experience with the person at the door. Every club and venue is different and each have their standards and rules.  A doorman may be new and therefore confused about the guest list or the name on the list may have been misspelled.  Please be patient and positive, your guest of honor is looking forward to a fabulous night. Here are a few tips when clubbing in Chicago:

  • Dress Codes –  What a great time to dress up!
    Dress codes at Chicago clubs and Chicago bars vary from location to location, but MUST be followed. Doormen have the final say as to who is let in. If they feel someone is under-dressed they may turn your group away. Forget the flip flops, those are for the beach. But you can do nice flats if heels aren’t your thing. Ripped jeans are for shopping days and finally, stay away from hats; you will have to take them off anyway.Come on ladies, it’s a big night! Think heels, dresses, stylish pants and blouses. Don’t forget all the photos that will be taken! If in doubt, look up the venue(s) online to get a detailed list of dress codes.
  • At the Door Patience is a virtue!
    Door men at clubs do not have an easy job. They are dealing with fake ids, intoxicated guests and people screaming at them. Do not begin yelling, demanding or talking all at once. This will only make your wait longer and possibly get you turned away. The door person has the best interest of the club in mind.  Additionally, some clubs will only allow people in who fit their brand.or standard.  When selecting nightclubs, it is important to consider whether your group is a good fit for a nightclub.
  • Tipping – Tip well, or die of thirst!
    Bring plenty of dollars for tips. Bartenders are more likely to serve those who are tippers as opposed to the person who does not.  In a nightclub where it is really busy, tipping is one way to get great service and better drinks.. You should plan on tipping your bartender a minimum of $1 per drink, or between 18% and 20% of your total end-of-the-night tab. In the end, you might be saving money, as bartenders will often take care of good tippers with the occasional free shot or drink. In addition, they will probably serve you a lot faster the next time around because they will remember you! Don’t be rude…this will only get you water downed drinks, if they even serve you again.

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Free Bachelorette Party Games

Free Bachelorette Party Games

Every bachelorette party should have fun games that can be played before or during the event.  It helps to  break the ice, get everyone talking and provide plenty of laughs while ensuring it is memorable.  We searched for the best free games on the web so here are the best Free Bachelorette Party Games

  • 21 Questions: Have the groom complete this list of questions and see how many correct the bride can get.
  • DIY Bachelorette Party Drink Spinner: Watch the bride spin to see if she gets a drink of water, wine, beer, shot, mixed drink, or champagne.
  • tud or Dud: Print out some pictures of celebrities and have the guests decide whether they’re studs or duds.
  • Fill Me In Game: 20 questions that have the guests fill in the missing word of the romantic songs.
  • What’s In Your Cell Phone: Each lady scores points for what she has in her cell phone, ranging from the most contacts to a dating app.
  • Stag & Hen | Free Download
  • A bachelorette party MUST, these Lingerie Shower Bingo Cards are a great activity to keep the bride tribe entertained while the bride-to-be is unwrapping gifts.

Wedding Wire also has a ton of free games.  check it out!